Last Sunday, one of our men walked up to one of the women in our church and in front of me and a few other people including her grown son and his family, he said he had run into someone recently that was an old schoolmate of hers, and he wanted her to know what the schoolmate said about her.
He went on to tell her that her former schoolmate had said she was a remarkable woman. He had been observing her life for many years and said he was particular taken by the love and care she gave to her family and to her dying husband when she was caring for him.
As he continued to tell us all what this man had said about my friend, she teared up and was touched to know the impact she had made on someone she didn’t even know was watching her life.
She is a remarkable woman. The man who validated her didn’t know about the validation experiment, he just wanted to tell her what an awesome example she had set as she quietly lived her life.
Yup…I’m loving this validation stuff!
Well, finally a few minutes to post one of my validation experiments. The other day I was grocery shopping and stopped at the deli. Although there were 4 clerks there, apparently only one was waiting on customers while the others busily ignored all 10 customers waiting for their number to be called. The one who was waiting on people, just kept plugging away, calling a number, filling an order, calling the next number. I noticed her glance a couple of times at the other clerks in what appeared to me to be a way that said, “Gosh, is anyone going to help me out here?” But she barely skipped a beat and moved the 9 people in front of me through their purchases with ease.
Then it was my turn. I ordered my first item, cut extra thin–and felt a tinge of guilt doing that with another 5 or 6 people now queued up behind me. My second order was also, special cut…as was my third.
What was amazing to me was that she never flinched or showed any frustration the whole time she was waiting on me (or the others in front of me). So, when I had my last package of cheese and was able to tell her that was it for me, I added this: “Except to say how exceptional you are at what you do. It has been very busy, but you have waited on each customer as though they were the only concern you had. I feel very cared for, and I just wanted you to know you are doing an awesome job.”
She smiled and said, “Wow! You just made me smile! Thanks.”
It was incredible.