Welcome to The Validation Experiment™! This is your personal invitation to realize the profound difference you can make in the world by taking the time to genuinely validate others from the heart. You’re making a difference every time you validate someone–and not just for them. People get inspired, encouraged, and fired up when they receive unexpected acknowledgment and compliments about the difference they’re making, and they’ll bring that positive energy into the rest of their day! Because of this ripple effect you will touch many more people than you’ll ever know.
“We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily differences we can make which, over time, add up to big differences that we often cannot foresee.” — Marian Wright Edelman
The Validation Experiment™ is about being fresh, creative, and unpredictable in a positive way. It is the act of building someone else up. It’s about standing out from the crowd, being different, being amazing, and making someone’s day by recognizing them as a valuable person.
What Is Validation?
validation: the act of validating; finding or testing the truth of something; to prove valid; show or confirm the validity of something; to give evidence for;
Validation builds people up, it reinforces their worth, acknowledges them, and accepts and recognizes their individual identity. For more information on the effects of validation and examples of putting it into action, sign up the The 30 Day Challenge!
So What Is The Validation Experiment™?
experiment: to conduct a test or investigation; to try something new, in order to gain experience; a venture at something new or different;
In The 30 Day Challenge, we’re challenging you to take on validating others for 30 days and to scientifically record and share observations of how it makes you and others feel, the feedback and responses you get, and the difference it makes. As a member of The Validation Experiment™ Team you can post your own ideas and experiences as tips or blog posts.
In addition to family and friends, think about all the people you see in a day and the level of interaction you have–or don’t have–with them: clerks, receptionists, baggers, helpers, assistants, doctors, nurses, civil service people, military service people, wait staff, sales clerks, customer service and repair people, co-workers and other front-line workers of all kinds. Many people go through their thankless days reliably performing their duties day in and day out without so much as a thank you, let alone a word of encouragement. Perhaps this describes you, too. If you take on the challenge to think about others above yourself and validate them, we promise it will make a positive impact not only on them, but on you as well!
Weaving The Validation Experiment™ practices into your day positively impacts both you and your world. It leaves you feeling successful and fulfilled at the end of the day, and the difference you’ve made stays with people, extending to their friends, families, and everyone they meet. As you take a moment to reflect on this, you begin to see how profound it really is.
Be Bold! Join The 30-Day Challenge! You can do it! You can make a difference. And you know why, right? Because you’re great!
The Parable of the Starfish
A young boy was walking along the shore where many starfish had been washed up by the tide, and were sure to die before the tide returned. As the boy walked along he reached down and tossed every beached starfish back into the ocean. A vacationing businessman, hoping to teach the boy a little lesson in common sense, walked up to him and said, “I’ve been watching what you’re doing, son. You have a good heart, and I know you mean well, but do you realize how many beaches there are around here, and how many starfish are dying on every beach every day? Surely such an industrious and kind-hearted boy such as yourself could find something better to do with his time. Do you really think that what you’re doing is going to make a difference?” The boy looked up at the man, and then he looked down at a starfish by his feet. He picked up the starfish, and as he gently tossed it back into the ocean he said, “It makes a difference to that one.”